Tuesday, December 31, 2013

384 HIV cases recorded in November 2013


According to the United Nations, the Philippines is amongst the 9 countries in the world where HIV AIDS cases are increasing.

In Cagayan de Oro alone, we already have 88 cases in 2013.  In 2008 it started with 6 cases, 2009 at 9 cases, 2010 at 14 cases, 2011 at 27 cases and last year 2012 at 52 cases.  This is just the reported cases.  Some might already have the infection but does not know it.

http://anc.yahoo.com/news/doh--384-hiv-cases-recorded-in-november-090312192.html

Monday, December 30, 2013

UK pardons the gay "Father of Computing"

British mathematician Alan Turing was considered as the "Father of Modern Computing".  He was responsible for the breaking of the World War 2 German "Enigma" code that eventually hastened the end of the war against Germany.

He was sentenced in 1952 for homosexual acts which was a criminal offense in the UK until 1967.  2 years later he allegedly committed suicide.

He was recently given a posthumous pardon by Queen Elizabeth II.

http://www.rappler.com/world/regions/europe/46537-britain-pardons-gay-father-of-computing-alan-turing


Saturday, December 28, 2013

Webcam : Twink Pinoy long dick

This Filipino guy was masturbating on webcam.  Showing off his twink body and cumming on his tablet.  Enjoy!


DISCLAIMER : DiscreetBai does not make any claims or suggestions to the sexual orientation or preference of the person or people involved in the video. 

Please practice safe sex!  Be responsible for yourself and others!

This video is for entertainment purposes only and should never be imitated.  Actors in this video undergo physical preparation (anal cleaning, HIV testing and others).

Please read more information about HIV AIDS and safe sex!
http://www.discreetbai.com/p/oral-sex.html


video

Thursday, December 26, 2013

Tips to avoid getting robbed in Cagayan de Oro

There have been incidents of robbery or fraud in Cagayan de Oro involving gay people.

To avoid getting swindled or robbed, here are some advise or tips to follow :

1. When meeting someone online, check their Facebook account or if not see each other through webcam. Today, most people have Facebook or webcams, so if that person does not have one, that is a warning sign.

2. If the person you meet online wants to meet with you immediately in your hotel room or apartment, that is a warning sign. Meet this person first in a public area or through webcam. If you do not like the person you are meeting, you can make an excuse and leave the place or simply turn off the webcam.

3. If you bring these strangers to your hotel room or apartment/home, make sure the hotel has a CCTV camera and the guy should register or surrender an ID to the hotel receptionist. Better yet, leave your valuables with the hotel receptionist for safe keeping and instruct them never to give it to anyone except you. Take a photo of the guy using your phone and send it to friends. If at home, make sure someone is at home to assist you in case of emergencies.

4. Gay swindlers are now in social networking sites. If the profile photo is not the same with the actual person you meet, that is a warning sign. Make an excuse and leave immediately. Do not anymore entertain them.

5. If someone asks you for a night out with his so called "friends and cousins", that is a warning sign. You might end up paying all of the drinks and even more. Sometimes you go out in a date, only to find out that his "cousin" will join you later. If this happens, make an excuse and leave! These swindlers sometimes operate in pairs or groups.

6. When in a motel, if the guy insists that you take a shower first, this is a warning sign. This is an opportunity for these swindlers to take your belongings and even your clothes. If you shower, take your clothes with you inside the bathroom and lock the door.

7. If you meet someone new and that guy wants to have sex with you, ask that person, are you a call boy? Some of these guys would not tell you that they are call boys. After sex they would suddenly ask money from you, even though you have not talked about it.

8. If a gay swindler threatens you that he will create a scene or "mag eskandalo" if you do not give your belongings, you should reply....GO AHEAD! PAG ESKANDALO. These swindlers are just bluffing. They do not really want to create a scene or else they will get involved in it and their identity exposed.

9. Beware of "masseurs" advertising their massage services online. There have been complaints of theft and swindling. It is best to get recommendations from friends or a reliable website.

10. Cagayan de Oro has a high HIV AIDS infection rate in Northern Mindanao. Every year infection rate in the city doubles (100% increase). You should not only be concerned about your physical safety when dealing with these call boys but your health as well.

Share this with friends! If you have been a victim of these swindlers, REPORT them to the Police!

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas to everyone!  Thank you for supporting DiscreetBai.com




Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Tweet joke gone bad

Always be careful what you post online.  Former PR executive Justine Sacco is now embroiled in a controversy for tweeting a joke about AIDS and being white before she boarded a plane to Africa.


"Going to Africa. Hope I don't get AIDS. Just kidding. I'm white!" read Sacco's infamous tweet, posted late Friday as she boarded an 11-hour flight to South Africa.

http://www.rappler.com/life-and-style/technology/46453-twitter-justine-sacco

Monday, December 23, 2013

SEA Games Medalist Jason Balabal

Jason Balabal made headlines recently as the Philippines flag bearer of the SEA Games opening ceremony in Myanmar.  As a native Ifugao, he proudly wore the Ifugao tribal wear including the "bahag".

Jason Balabal is a wrestling gold medalist.  I featured Jason Balabal a year ago? in this blog but I never knew he also modeled for an underwear brand.





Sunday, December 22, 2013

Short Film : Trunks

Steve knows he's straight but under the water at his local swimming pool, he feels gay. Will he tell his ex-girlfriend the entire truth and what does he dream of?  By the way, dont be confused.  He is narrating the story of what happened to him in the pool.






Saturday, December 21, 2013

Video : Straight Porn

I am not quite sure if this is an experimental independent film or simply a porn film.  This is a straight porn so gays be warned :)


DISCLAIMER : DiscreetBai does not make any claims or suggestions to the sexual orientation or preference of the person or people involved in the video. 

Please practice safe sex!  Be responsible for yourself and others!

This video is for entertainment purposes only and should never be imitated.  Actors in this video undergo physical preparation (anal cleaning, HIV testing and others).

Please read more information about HIV AIDS and safe sex!
http://www.discreetbai.com/p/oral-sex.html

video

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Boarding house thief and swindler in CDO arrested.




Photo provided last 2011 by his victims
Someone posted in DiscreetBai forum about a certain swindler named Jaypee L. Oca.  I immediately recognized him as the same guy who victimized occupants of boarding houses in Cagayan de Oro 2 years ago.  It was reported in the local ABS-CBN.  He used the name Julian Perry Oga.  His victims already filed a complain at Police Station No. 9 in Macasandig.  It is best that these two Police Stations (No. 1 and No. 9) coordinate with each other.  Check out this link
http://www.discreetbai.com/2011/09/boarding-house-swindler.html

This only shows that IF YOU REPORT these swindlers to the POLICE, they will be arrested and put a stop to their swindling activities in Cagayan de Oro!

To Loi23alian, thank you for sharing this information.  I hope this will encourage more people to report swindlers to the police.

Here is the link to the DiscreetBai Forum post by Loi23alian
http://www.discreetbai.com/p/forum.html#/20131119/modus-and-swindler-3404722/

 
Social networking sites are very helpful to us nowadays. In these sites we meet a lot of people of our interests. Friendship, relationship, hook-ups, and etc are some of the interests we seek in these sites. Now, everyone has heard of the site www.planetromeo.com, right? This is a social-networking site for us, gays/bisexuals. We could meet a lot of people from this site as we all know.
Now, as I am an avid user of this site, I get to log-in everyday and run through lists of online netizens. One sunday night, November 10, 2013, I received message from a username "singledad_28" with a "Hi." as usual way of starting a conversation. As I read the message, I replied to this man, and that started our long conversation. He gave me a not clear picture of him and his son then he asked for my cellular phone number, so I gave it to him. He called me right after I gave him my digits. We talked over the phone and discussed his son. The night had gone deeper and he told me that he's sleepy then ended the call.

In the morrow, he called me early an asked me if we could meet somewhere in the city, he preferred if it's in the mall. I accepted his invitation and told him that we could meet inside the premises of Limketkai Mall and he agreed to this. Late in the afternoon at around 5pm, we met at Starbucks Coffee and proceeded to Shakey's inside Limketkai Mall. He treated me something to eat and a tea. He told me his name was "Zach" and I told mine too. We talked about his son and his family background, and so I told him about mine also. As we were talking, two customers went inside the establishment we were in, and Zach coincidently had a stomachache and immediately stood up and went outside the parlor and headed to Mercury Drug Store. 10 minutes later, I contacted Zach and asked him if he will be coming back then he called me on my phone and told me he's buying medicine for his stomachache. Over the phone he asked me if I knew the persons who got inside Shakey's Parlor and I told him "no". He said he might be taking so long so he asked me if I could pay the bill for what we ordered, I checked my wallet and told him that my money isn't enough, knowing this he asked me if I could hand over my phone to the waiter so that he could give instructions to the waiter. The instruction was simple, the waiter will go to the Mercury Drug Store to get the payment and return immediately so that I could come over where he was. So I came over to him and we strolled around the mall. While strolling, he told me his wallet was snatched from him at Cogon market. He worried for his identification cards because the grandmother of his son (his mother-in-law) will be sending him money for his son. But the problem was he can't get the money because he had no ID to present in the money remittance center. He asked me a favor if he could use my ID and I said "yes" the he told me that in return he will give me a partial of the money he will be receiving, I declined to this but he insisted so I had nothing more to say. As I looked inside my wallet, I told him I forgot to bring my ID, then he asked me if we could go back to my house and get my ID then back again in the city to get the money. We rode in a taxi cab forth to our house then back again to the city. We got back in the city and stayed inside Missy Bonbon. He sent my name and address to his mother-in-law and we waited for the control number. The night became weary and my mom called me, she was worried with me, I got anxious and worried too and told Zach if I could go home now. He was a bit worried too and apologized to me because he got me in to trouble, so he told me to go home and gave me money for the cab fare. And about the money, he'll just ask his son's grandma to send it tomorrow in the afternoon because I promised him that I will meet him again by tomorrow.

In the morning, I woke up by the ringing sound of my phone, it was Zach who called me, he told me that his son got bored and was crying and he and his son's yaya can't do something to ease the child. He said his son wanted to watch action movies, so he asked me if I could bring a portable DVD player in the hotel where they're staying so that his son could watch movies. I said to him that we don't have that kind of DVD player, instead we have laptop and maybe I could bring it. So all was set, I will meet them in the afternoon inside Parkview Hotel. I was glad because I will be meeting his son. Afternoon has come so I decided to go before the rain comes pouring. As I got near Parkview Hotel, he told me his son is still sleeping so maybe we could go somewhere else where we can drink coffee, he told me Brew Berry Cafe would be perfect since he like the ambiance of the place. Then we went to the cafe and talked a lot. He treated me to a coffee drink. He asked me if I could show him the movies I prepared for his son. I pulled over my laptop and put it on the table. He told me that since we're also waiting for the money and for his son to wake up, we could search on the internet some gadgets selling online because he wanted to buy. I asked him why since he already have an iPhone, and a blackberry phone. He told me he is planning to give it to me. I told him that it doesn't matter because I already have a smartphone and an iPod to use and I am already contented with what I have but he insisted and told me that he feel so guilty and his conscience is engraving him because he got me in to trouble last night and asked me hassle favors. So I didn't insist anymore and changed the topic. While we were have conversations he tend to go inside the comfort room leaving his things in front of me. So I thought that he's really trusting me. I noticed that he'd already went inside of the comfort room several times so I asked him if there's something wrong. He told me that it is his stomachache causing him to go inside the CR for a couple of times. So I told him that he should buy medicine outside, he thought over about my suggestion and he told me that if it gets worse he will buy medicine. Minutes later, he went again inside the CR and as he got back, he told me if I could buy him medicine. Without hesitation and with the complete trust, I told him to look over my things while I buy him medicine. So I left the cafe and buy the medicine for his stomachache. As I got back to the establishment where I left Zach, he was nowhere to be found. I searched inside the CR and asked the waiters and the owner of the cafe if they saw the man who was with me the while time we were in the cafe but they said they didn't know where the man went but they saw the man left a minute after I left to buy medicine. I was in total shock and as if the energy inside me was totally drained as soon as I realized Zach has my belongings, my laptop, my wallet, my bag, my iPod 4th Gen, and my 500gb external hard drive.

I immediately went to the nearest police station and asked for their help, they interrogated me and I was compelled to tell them the whole story. I texted Zach in hope that he would reply to my messages. After several messages I sent to him, he replied to me, "Hala! Oh my!". I told the police that he replied to me and the officers motivated me to keep in contact with the suspect. I told Zach I would give to him anything just to retrieve my laptop because I have some important files in their. He told me, "I'm sorry. I just need the money po talaga.". I asked him to call me so that we could have a proper conversation, so he called me and told me that he will give me my laptop if I will give him money worth 10,000php. So I accepted his offer. I told the officers about this and they prepared themselves for an entrapment operation. Zach told me that we will meet inside Centrio Mall specifically inside J.Co Donuts. I knew the chance of this operation was 10% only but I never had allowed myself to lose hope. Zach called me on my phone and told me it would be better if I'd go inside the Mall first. So the cops and I went to the said mall and they told me the plan while we were in the Police Patrol Car. We arrived outside the mall and I headed immediately to J.Co Donuts establishment. I texted Zach that I am already in the place, he told me that the plan has changed, we will meet outside the Mall, I will hand him over the money and he will give me my things. And again, I reminded myself that the chance of this operation is only 10% so I prayed to God that this operation may be successful. I told him that I am going outside the mall and he told me he's riding a taxi cab and he'll just call me as soon as he arrives. The moment I stepped outside the premises of the mall, I saw a cab slowing down and I guessed it could be Zach. I went on the other side of the road and took a look inside the car from a distant. I confirmed to the police that it was Zach sitting on the front seat. I ran to the cab and stood on front of it so that it will go nowhere. The police noticed mu actions and they knew it was the cue. They went after me and told the driver to open the door and that they are cops. The driver did what he was told to do then the cops arrested Zach, the theft.

We proceeded immediately to the police station for further investigation and interrogation. Medias came over the station, ABS-CBN and GMA News. They interviewed me about what really happened and I told him the whole story.

After an hour, a complainant came over the police station and confirmed that it was Zach who took his things, iPhone 4S, watch worth 10,000php, and wallet with money worth 1,500 and identification cards in it. I recognized the complainant because he was the man I saw inside Shakey's Pizza Parlor. I then realized that it was the man the reason why Zach left the parlor hastily. The complainant told me his story and I discovered we experienced almost the same modus.

Now, I have retrieved all my belongings that were taken away from me by Jaypee "Zach" Luba Oca. Beware of this man. If you are also a victim of this fraud, file a complain in the police station 1 at DV Soria, Cagayan de Oro City.

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Ms. International 2013 is Philippines!

Congrats to Bea Rose Santiago for being crowned as Ms. International 2013!   We are proud of you!  Long hair ng mga Pinay beauties ngayon! :)

http://www.rappler.com/life-and-style/46111-miss-international-2013

Photo from Rappler.com


 

Does age really matter?

In love, does age really matter?  News surfaced recently that 19 year old olympic swimmer Tom Daley was dating a more mature guy who is 20 years his senior.  Some say he could be Tom Daley's father.

According to Daley, he has never felt so loved and secured in his entire life.  Well, daddy knows best?


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/michelangelo-signorile/tom-daley-is-20-years-younger-than-dustin-lance-black-so-what_b_4397666.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices


Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Remembering Sendong

We remember those who perished in this tragic natural disaster. 

May we learn from this tragedy and not forget those who are still missing.




Monday, December 16, 2013

IRR of the School Anti-Bullying Law passed

Finally, Filipino LGBT's in schools will be protect from bullying.  The implementing rules and regulations of the School Anti-Bullying Law has been passed recently.  Protection includes bullying by text and social media.

In high school I really had a difficult time expressing myself because of my classmates.  I never really enjoyed high school.  It sucked!  Every time there is a high school reunion, I avoid it.  It is not worth my time.

In college though it was a different experience for me.  My classmates basically knew who I was and they did not really mind whether I was gay or not.  There were a few who tried to bully me but most of my friends and classmates were kind and understanding enough that I felt I was loved and respected.

When going to college choose a school that is more accepting of homosexuality.  Some schools especially Catholic schools can be problematic and feeds on homophobia.  If you plan to go to college, make sure you go to a secular or non-religious school like UP.  And of course, choose friends wisely both straight and gay.  Your friends can help you through tough times in College.

http://anc.yahoo.com/video/deped-sets-irr-ant-bullying-073045370.html


 

Sunday, December 15, 2013

Short Film : El Inicio (The Beginning)

Gringo and Rafa are two friends who are going through adolescence.  One hot summer afternoon they spend time together enjoying the countryside.  However, in one of their innocent games something happened unexpectedly.  Would this be the beginning of a blossoming friendship? or the beginning of the end of their friendship?



Saturday, December 14, 2013

Video : Black Teen Jerk Off

This black teen guy jerks off and cums......Enjoy!


DISCLAIMER : DiscreetBai does not make any claims or suggestions to the sexual orientation or preference of the person or people involved in the video. 

Please practice safe sex!  Be responsible for yourself and others!

This video is for entertainment purposes only and should never be imitated.  Actors in this video undergo physical preparation (anal cleaning, HIV testing and others).

Please read more information about HIV AIDS and safe sex!
http://www.discreetbai.com/p/oral-sex.html


video

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Pregnant groom weds in Argentina

The groom is born female and is now a male transsexual.  The bride is born a male who became a female transsexual.  Both did not removed their original gender reproductive system.  

Reading this article I got confused.  Is it possible for a transsexual male and female to fall in love with each other?

Since both the bride and the groom are technically of the opposite sex, would this constitute as a same-sex marriage or a traditional heterosexual marriage?  Would the Catholic Church agree to marry the couple in the Church since both are of the opposite sex?  

More questions than answers.


http://www.abs-cbnnews.com/lifestyle/11/30/13/argentina-pregnant-groom-weds-legal-first

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Gay urinal

The gayest urinal you will ever find.  And don't tell me you are tempted to sit on it?


Sunday, December 8, 2013

US Embassy in Manila issues first 'fiance visa' to same-sex couple

This is good news for Filipinos who are married to their American partners.

From the Philippine Embassy website in the United States :

"On December 2, 2013, the United States Embassy in the Philippines issued its first fiancé visa to a same-sex couple. Although same-sex marriage is not yet recognized in the Philippines, gay Americans are now able to petition for family-based visas on behalf of their Filipino spouses, fiancés, and their children."

http://manila.usembassy.gov/first-visa-issued-same-sex-couple-manila.html 




Saturday, December 7, 2013

Video : Pick up truck vintage porn

Vintage gay porn.  A hot guy in a ponytail.  Enjoy!


DISCLAIMER : DiscreetBai does not make any claims or suggestions to the sexual orientation or preference of the person or people involved in the video. 

Please practice safe sex!  Be responsible for yourself and others!

This video is for entertainment purposes only and should never be imitated.  Actors in this video undergo physical preparation (anal cleaning, HIV testing and others).

Please read more information about HIV AIDS and safe sex!
http://www.discreetbai.com/p/oral-sex.html

video

Friday, December 6, 2013

Grey Hu featured in SunStar CDO

Grey Hu (not his real name) is HIV positive and is currently living in Cagayan de Oro.  He shares his life story in SunStar Daily hoping that others can find solace that they are not alone in the fight against HIV AIDS.

Click on the link for the full article

http://www.sunstar.com.ph/cagayan-de-oro/feature/2013/12/01/positive-embraces-life-316519

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Avoid getting robbed in Cagayan de Oro

There have been incidents of robbery or fraud in Cagayan de Oro involving gay people.

To avoid getting swindled or robbed, here are some advise or tips to follow :

1. When meeting someone online, check their Facebook account or if not see each other through webcam. Today, most people have Facebook or webcams, so if that person does not have one, that is a warning sign.

2. If the person you meet online wants to meet with you immediately in your hotel room or apartment, that is a warning sign. Meet this person first in a public area or through webcam. If you do not like the person you are meeting, you can make an excuse and leave the place or simply turn off the webcam.

3. If you bring these strangers to your hotel room or apartment/home, make sure the hotel has a CCTV camera and the guy should register or surrender an ID to the hotel receptionist. Better yet, leave your valuables with the hotel receptionist for safe keeping and instruct them never to give it to anyone except you. Take a photo of the guy using your phone and send it to friends. If at home, make sure someone is at home to assist you in case of emergencies.

4. Gay swindlers are now in social networking sites. If the profile photo is not the same with the actual person you meet, that is a warning sign. Make an excuse and leave immediately. Do not anymore entertain them.

5. If someone asks you for a night out with his so called "friends and cousins", that is a warning sign. You might end up paying all of the drinks and even more. Sometimes you go out in a date, only to find out that his "cousin" will join you later. If this happens, make an excuse and leave! These swindlers sometimes operate in pairs or groups.

6. When in a motel, if the guy insists that you take a shower first, this is a warning sign. This is an opportunity for these swindlers to take your belongings and even your clothes. If you shower, take your clothes with you inside the bathroom and lock the door.

7. If you meet someone new and that guy wants to have sex with you, ask that person, are you a call boy? Some of these guys would not tell you that they are call boys. After sex they would suddenly ask money from you, even though you have not talked about it.

8. If a gay swindler threatens you that he will create a scene or "mag eskandalo" if you do not give your belongings, you should reply....GO AHEAD! PAG ESKANDALO. These swindlers are just bluffing. They do not really want to create a scene or else they will get involved in it and their identity exposed.

9. Beware of "masseurs" advertising their massage services online. There have been complaints of theft and swindling. It is best to get recommendations from friends or a reliable website.

10. Cagayan de Oro has a high HIV AIDS infection rate in Northern Mindanao. Every year infection rate in the city doubles (100% increase). You should not only be concerned about your physical safety when dealing with these call boys but your health as well.

Share this with friends! If you have been a victim of these swindlers, REPORT them to the Police!

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Tom Daley admits he is bisexual

The British swimming olympian Tom Daley recently admitted that he is in a relationship with a guy but still fancies girls.  Bisexual?  Wow, never expected that.   I already featured him in the blog a year or 2 years ago. 

I wish Tom the best and I hope he finds what he is looking for.

View his YouTube confessional.

http://www.rappler.com/sports/world/45122-uk-tom-daley-reveals-gay-relationship



http://www.policymic.com/articles/13165/tom-daley-gay-rumors-diver-seeks-fashion-advice-from-one-direction-harry-styles


Sunday, December 1, 2013

Paul Walker dies in a car accident

Paul Walker known for his role in "Fast and the Furious" died in a car crash today.  This was confirmed by his manager through TMZ.

As a fan of "Fast and the Furious" it really saddens me.  They are currently filming the 7th squeal to the movie.  Goodbye Paul.  We will miss you.


World AIDS Day

The 2013 theme for World AIDS Day is "Getting to Zero." Zero New HIV Infections, Zero Discrimination and Zero AIDS Related Deaths.

As I keep on emphasizing, we have to be responsible for ourselves and for others so that we won't spread the disease.  IF we do not do anything today, the next generation will suffer.

Be responsible for yourself and for others!  Use a CONDOM!  Avoid multiple partners!  Get yourself tested! Free testing is available in the Northern Mindanao Medical Center or popularly known as the Provincial Hospital.




Saturday, November 30, 2013

New aggressive HIV strain discovered

Swedish researchers found a new and aggressive strain of HIV in Africa causing AIDS to form faster.

The strain was first discovered by the Swedish team in Guinea-Bissau in 2011.  With migration, the strain might have already spread around the world.

http://www.rappler.com/science-nature/44857-new-hiv-strain-causes-aids-faster

Friday, November 29, 2013

Living with HIV AIDS in Cagayan de Oro

Iam sharing this story of Mr. Grey Hu (not his real name) who is HIV positive and a resident of Cagayan de Oro City.  He shared his life story in Outrage Magazine and has given me permission to reprint his story in DiscreetBai blog.  Thanks Grey Hu.

Grey: Facing each day as a miracle unfolding
 
Call me Grey (not my real name). I am from south of the islands of the Philippines – Cagayan de Oro. I am HIV-positive. It’s been two months since I knew my result. 

I call it as my Dark Age or simply “restless days”. I had a wonderful and simple life here in the province but I chose to work in a big city for better opportunities. Financially, my family can provide for me and my brother the things we ask for; but young as I was, I wanted more – I wanted freedom and to live independently. And so I had a very different life, and yes, I loved it. But while I enjoyed it so much, I forgot the things that matter. It was then that I got really depressed, so that I clung to short-term happiness. I became promiscuous. I enjoyed the ‘short times’ with some random guys. I had several flings and it became a pattern... a pattern of my life that I never wish happened, though it did happen and not that I ever regretted it happening.

In October 2011, I decided to come home. I was having the best and worst days of my life then. I needed to learn to love myself and to embrace the people who matter to me. I got sick most of the time then – from fever to coughing, until I was diagnosed with shingles. My self-denial did not help me. I was sick on and off until November 2012, and my family was starting to worry. I kept my composure and never thought of having the virus. In fact, I was still active in my sexual life – and, worse, I remained unsafe even then. I continued living my my life as if it’s the last day of the world for me.

Earlier this year, I got ill again, and I lost weight – around 10% of my body weight. It was the turning point in my life. I realized that I was indeed sick and that it may be something serious.  

I remember earlier, on February 2012, when I got mild TB and confined in a private hospital in CDO, where I was enrolled to DOTS for free meds for TB – that moment in my life, I learned to value my family more as they were there when I was about to quit life. They did not judge me, just cared for me and gave me unconditional love. My tita, who is like my second mom, was always hands-on during those awful times. My nurse cousin was there to check on me. My mama was always there praying for my recovery. My best friends who knew my situation were there too. God became my refuge during those times. He was there and together with my family. I disconnect myself from the world for five months then, and I celebrated each day as if my last.

By mid-May, I got better and better each day. Loving yourself more is my weapon in that fight. I recovered so fast and it was amazing. A second life, indeed. 
On May 28, I contacted my peer counselor from the city health department. I told him that I will take the HIV antibody test. I took it as God’s grace and courage to take the risk of getting tested. It was a risk I knew I would carry for a lifetime. In the afternoon of that same day, I got the result. I expected for it to be positive – I somehow knew I am positive. And my suspicion was proven right. As the doctor was discussing with me about my case, I just listened and thought of the things I did. I told him I needed to accept my status because I made a choice. No regrets for me now. I am now ready to face what life has brought me. This is a rebirth for me; a call for service.

It is true that one of the most difficult situations I ever dealt with is accepting my status day by day. But I became better eventually, and more loving of myself. I was indeed whole now. I dealt with this with openness and I embrace it unconditionally and with God’s grace.

My family still matters to me now. My best friends and my new friends from the advocacy molded me to become strong. I now need to choose the people who I want to share my life with.
Blaming doesn't help at all. Dealing with it with open arms and continuing living and stopping worrying do. Yoga helped me a lot, too, and being with optimistic people.

And now I hope to somehow become a voice to my fellow PLHIVs, advocating for love and for inner peace. 
Yes, it may not be always easy – it took me two months to write this! But to other PLHIVs, remember that you are loved. I am praying for all of us. Let us join together and build a new “us”. 

Last week, I had my CD4 count, and the result was too low – it’s only 56. I know it’s just a number. I will start taking my medications this week and I know this will help me. But already, I am better and better every day. Every day is a miracle. I am now ready to face this battle.
At the present times, I am launching my advocacy for HIV & AIDS awareness : The project Oxygen. You can check me online, thru facebook. 

HUGS, 

GREY HU

Thursday, November 28, 2013

World AIDS Day activities in Cagayan de Oro

Cagayan de Oro City AIDS Council and
Misamis Oriental - Cagayan de Oro AIDS Network (MOCAN)

WORLD AIDS DAY 2013
Schedule of Activities

Theme: "Getting to Zero." Zero New HIV Infections, Zero Discrimination and Zero AIDS Related Deaths

• November 25, 2013: Press Conference (Cagayan de Oro City AIDS
Council, MOCAN, DOH, NMMC and ALAGAD-Mindanao) 10-12 NN,
Dynasty Court Hotel
• November 25:2013: Radio guesting at Magnum Radyo (Tingug
CDO/Mr. Rey - PHO/Ms. Lalang & Ms. Jane) 3:15 PM
• November 26, 2013: Radio guesting at DXCC (Tingug CDO/Mr. Rey)
8:00 - 9:00 AM
• November 26, 2013 : TV guesting at Pamahaw Espesyal (Liceo U/Ms.
Fritzie Estoque) 6:15 AM
• November 27, 2013: Radio guesting at Radyo Ultra (Oro Youth
Centre/Ms. Flor - TISAKA/Ms. Eleony) 8:00-9:00 AM
• November 28, 2013: TV guesting at GMA (DOH/Mr. Jun)
• November 29, 2013 : Poster Making contest among college students in
Cagayan de Oro City Venue: City Health Office Training Room
Time: 1:00 to 5:00 in the afternoon
• November 30, 2013: Radio Guesting at Magnum Radio (Ms. Fritz and
guest) 5:00-6:00 PM

• December 1, 2013:
Radio guesting at Bombo Radyo (Ms. Fritz and guest) 8:00-9:00 AM
TV guesting at Hope Channel (DOH, Ms. Fritz and guest)
11:00 - 12:00 NN
Umbrella Walk and Advocacy Program @ 3:00 PM
(registration starts at 1:30 PM)
Venue: Kiosko Kagawasan, Divisoria, Cagayan de Oro City

• December 2, 2013: Forum among HS and college students at Liceo U
Venue: AVR 3, Liceo de Cagayan University Main Campus, Rodolfo N.
Pelaez Boulevard, Kauswagan, CDO

• December 4, 2013: TV guesting at Pamahaw Espesyal (CHO/Dr. Joey
Retuya) 6:15 AM

Every December 1 is observed as World AIDS Day (WAD). It is about increasing awareness, fighting prejudice and improving education on STI, HIV and AIDS Prevention. The theme for this year's observance is "Getting to Zero." Zero New HIV Infections, Zero Discrimination and Zero AIDS Related Deaths.

Calling everyone to join with us in this event.

Umbrella Walk for World AIDS Day!

Join us at Kiosko Kagawasan, Divisoria, Cagayan de Oro City on Sunday, December 1, 2013 at 1:30 P.M. Please help us spread the news and not the virus.

This is in celebration of World AIDS Day!

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Nude pictorial in the beach

Makes me want to go to the beach more often!  And if you find this guy laying down in the beach unconscious, what are you going to do?



Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Gay hang out spots in CDO

Do know of any gay hang out spots in CDO aside from movie theaters or malls?  Share your thoughts and your comments here.  See you around ;)


Monday, November 25, 2013

Brandon Rios

I think Brandon Rios is an eye candy.  He is a handsome guy.  I would not mind to do some rounds with him in the ring....yeahhh baby give it to me, or should I give it to you? ;)  He lost to Pacquiao via unanimous decision.


Photo from TopRank.com

Sunday, November 24, 2013